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Relationships aren’t easy. Here are 8 ways that you can reignite the romance when things feel like they’re burning out, dying, and stagnant.

Learn Your Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

“A quick and valuable read to help you better understand how you and your partner best like to express and receive love. Great for helping you see what you truly value in a partner and what your partner truly values in you.”

Sheri

Unlock Erotic Intelligence 

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

“It tells you how to have the security, stability, comfort, etc that are requirements for a healthy a LT relationship while at the same time creating the uncertainty, mystery, and risk that are requirements for passion.

 

The author is a therapist in NY and draws on cases to illustrate her points. It's engaging, the topic is fascinating, and Perel has some refreshingly smart suggestions for maintaining or recapturing eroticism in relationships. Note that this book probably won't resonate with everybody: some of her suggestions have a healthy disregard for the status quo, which the iconoclastic realist in me appreciates.

 

As an (um) firm believer that if people had better sex lives, the world would be a happier place, take my advice: don't sleep on this one!”

kareem

Create A Shared Calendar 

2022 Calendar – 12 Monthly Wall Calendar with Thick Paper

022 Calendar - 12 Monthly Wall Calendar with Thick Paper, 14.6" x 11.5", Jan. 2022 - Dec. 2022, Twin-Wire Binding + Hanging Hook + Unuled Blocks

“Get a shared calendar and block of time and stick to it. No excuses. Commitment is showing each other by our actions that they and the relationship you have with them matters. Thats really all it comes down to.”

saby1104

Leave Them Notes

Post-it Super Sticky Notes, Assorted Bright Colors, 3 in x 3 in

 Post-it Super Sticky Notes, Assorted Bright Colors, 3 in x 3 in, 15 Pads/Pack, 45 Sheets/Pad, 2x the Sticking Power, Recyclable (654-15SSCP), Multi-color

“Posting little post-its scattered around or messages in lipstick on the bathroom or even little written motivations / sexy notes snuck sneakily into her purse”

optml

Gift Card

Gift Card To Their Favorite Spot At Discounted Prices (you don’t need to tell them that part)

CardCash

Gift cards can be a disappointing gift when your expecting something. But a spontaneous gift card for your boo thing to their favorite restaurant or store can mean a lot! Card Cash offers discounted gift cards, sometimes over 20% off. Plus the button below will get you $5 coupon off your first purchase.

Give Them A Massage

MAJESTIC PURE Eucalyptus Mint Massage Oil, Invigorating & Refreshing

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“The hormones that are released during a massage do more than encouraging stress-free communication. Touch stimulates your social hormones as well as dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin.  

 

These hormones work together to lift your spirits and keep you happy long after the massage is done. During this time, you'll experience increased amounts of affection for your partner. you may even find a new appreciation for them.”

Saratoga Sports Massage

Get A New Cologne

Cremo Bourbon & Oak Cologne Spray, A Sophisticated Blend of Distiller’s Spice, Fine Bourbon and White Oak, 3.4 Oz

Cremo Bourbon & Oak Cologne Spray, A Sophisticated Blend of Distiller’s Spice, Fine Bourbon and White Oak, 3.4 Oz

“Everyone knows what it's like to be powerfully affected by a partner's smell—witness men who bury their noses in their wives' hair and women who can't stop sniffing their boyfriends' T-shirts. And couples have long testified to the ways scent-based chemistry affects their relationships. “One of the most common things women tell marriage counselors is, ‘I can't stand his smell,'” says Herz, the author of The Scent of Desire.”

Psychology Today

Fresh Flowers

Benchmark Bouquets Orange Roses and White Oriental Lilies, With Vase (Fresh Cut Flowers)

Benchmark Bouquets Orange Roses and White Oriental Lilies, With Vase (Fresh Cut Flowers)

It’s a tried and true gift, but there is a reason it’s still the go-to gift of love! Here’s a tip: get her(or him) flowers when it’s NOT your anniversary, birthday, or holiday. A random bouquet of flowers will often be even more meaningful than one that’s only gotten out of necessity. Of course, it’s not a bad idea to get some flowers on those special occasions too.

I hope you found some inspiration in this list. Just remember, what you do doesn't have to be big, the small things make a huge impact.